Mistakes Soccer Parents Make

Whether we like it or not…parents play a crucial role in influencing their kids’ soccer performance. 

A healthy bond between parent and player can cultivate a positive mindset that will carry throughout their playing years. 

On the other hand, a parent who is too critical of their child will often see their player glancing at the sidelines for them and being scared to make a mistake. 

If you are active in your child’s soccer career, here’s some mistakes to avoid. Remember, they look up to you and care deeply about what you say and do. Try to be the best role model and influence possible…it will help them in the long run.

Not Letting Kids Make Mistakes 

Some parents can be too and verbally punish their child if they make any mistake on the field.  When this happens, most young athletes will hold back to avoid the pain of hearing their parents yell at them. 

Although it may be difficult for many parents, it is crucial to allow your kid to make mistakes and learn from them. If you let your child make mistakes at age 10, they will hopefully learn from it and be a better player when they are 16. 

In addition, positive parental involvement can help your kids develop critical skills, such as social abilities, the ability to remain calm and relaxed, and positive self-esteem. These skills are not only valuable on the soccer field but especially beneficial in the real world.  

Too Much Interference 

Parents often get frustrated when their kids do not perform well in school and in sports. As a result, they interfere in the process and forcefully try to improve their kids’ performance. 

While parental interference can positively impact kids’ abilities, too much intervention can create a sense of entitlement.  

Parents can avoid this mistake by knowing their role on the field. A parents role in practice or game is to let the player play and the coach coach.  We know it’s easier said than done. But, at the end of the day, it’s just a game. 

Instilling Motivation with a Negative Attitude 

While nothing is wrong with motivating your young athlete, a negative attitude toward the child can be contagious.  A negative attitude towards your child can often be perceived to them as “I’m not good enough.” 

This can lead to tricky situations down the road. They may feel unworthy in other aspects of life. They might try to compensate for their lack of self-esteem by lashing out. Or, they might feel like they aren’t good enough to play the game anymore. 

The best motivation is inspiration mixed with a positive attitude. Make your child feel like a star. Be their voice or reason. Be their best bud off and on the field. Provide them positive feedback. Love them for the child they are.